My do over would be, talking to the birth mother after Bailee was born. The day after Bailee was born I felt a overwhelming need to talk to her, even though some people thought I shouldn't, mainly the social worker. (that is a story in itself) But I just had to tell her what was in my heart. But some of y'all might know that when I get emotional I cry. So I walked into her room and just let it all out and it didn't come out pretty. I cried and tried to get out what I was feeling. I don't regret going in there and talking to her I just wished I could have done it better and I should have written it all out, so I wouldn't have repeated myself so much. But it is what it is.
Do you have a do over?
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Man - IDK!
I think there are things I could have done better/ things I should have thought about more first....
but really I am so satisfied with where I am in life - my family/friends, those people who I have eliminated from my life because of certain situations, those I have given second chances, the house we live in, etc. I am really happy with the path we have taken and I think it may have ended differently if all those things had not happened exactly as they did.....
I am sure I could have spoken better, thought more about things, applied a little more effort into things - but those are all little things and I can't remember one I really regret....
(that being said - I have been far from perfect in the decisions I have made, I guess I am just pleased in even the bad decision's outcome.....)
and I am sure your "do-over" is probably not seen that way to Bailee's birth mother, I am sure she sees it as a gesture of gratitude and doesn't even remember what things you said twice ;o)
Kim - I have LOTS of do-overs in my life!
I would've delt with my father differently. I would've (like you) scripted what I wanted to explain to him rather than being an emotional mess the last few times I talked to him.
I would've majored in something different in college...I could've still taken all of those classes, and had the experience that I had while earning a degree that would be useful to me someday.
I wouldn't have stayed at my first real job as long as I did. I was miserable every day and it caused lots of stress for me during my pregnancy with Hunter and difficulty in my early marriage that was very unnecessary.
I think we all have things that we wish we could do-over...but I do try to have a positive outlook and see what I learned from the situation.
ok - I thought about it some more and I think that I replay those times when someone - gets one on me- when they say something sarcastic and hurtful - and I don't get a quick enough "smart response" to it - I replay those alot with "shouldas"
Yes, I have several, big do-overs. I'm not sure I could even write them on here, but I'd love to share them with you over dozens of cookies someday! ;o)
Here is one that I can share...on March 18, 2000...we were celebrating Josh's birthday at the bowling ally in Owensville. My friend, Leslie, and some of her other friends came in to have a good time, too. I hadn't seen her in probably a year, and I kept telling myself I should go over and say hi and catch up. Instead, we just smiled at each other and gave a friendly wave. The next day, she (and her boyfriend) died in a car accident (on Josh's birthday, March 19th). I so badly wish I would have gone over to talk with her that night.
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